Dictionary of Sexual Terms

We have put together a little Dictionary of some sexual terms that you may find interesting. When meeting one of our escorts, if you have any special requests please ask your friendly Lavish Receptionist

Pearl Necklace

As Samantha explained to Charlotte on a memorable episode of Sex and the City, a pearl necklace is what results when someone ejaculates on or around their partner’s neck or chest (yes, so that the semen is roughly where a pearl necklace is when worn).

If you’re not someone who enjoys wearing this kind of pearl necklace, feel free to stick to Charlotte’s preferred version, which you can find at Bloomingdale’s.

Impact Play

Impact play refers to any impact on the body done for sexual gratification, from spanking to whips and crops.

When engaging in impact play, remember to pick a safe word and continually check in with one another to ensure the level of pain is desirable.

It’s also important to stick to areas on the body which are safe to spank or tap on with a crop, which means fleshy, meaty areas away from the organs, such as the butt and thighs. If this sounds appealing to you, be sure to check out my guide to first-timer BDSM tips.


Squirting is when a person with a vagina ejaculates fluid during sex. Eborn says she is frequently asked if squirting is a myth, and she’s only too happy to share that it is not, nor is it “just peeing.”

Research suggests that the fluid involved comes partly from Skene’s glands, also known as the “female prostate” — but as with many subjects that don’t focus on a penis, more research is required.

Not everyone squirts, and among those who do, some squirt from clitoral stimulation and some squirt from G-spot stimulation (that is, stimulation of the sensitive front wall of the vagina).


You may be familiar with cognitive behavioural therapy, a helpful form of talk therapy. However, within the world of kink, CBT refers to “cock and ball torture.”

This form of CBT can be therapeutic for people with penises interested in having a dominatrix inflict pain on their genitals, through the use of ropes, whips, or even chastity devices.


Pegging refers to when a woman penetrates a man anally with a strap-on dildo. There’s a now-infamous pegging scene in a Broad City episode that recently repopularized the term.


Queening is just a glamorous name for sitting on someone’s face. There’s nothing more to it than that.


Scissoring, also called tribadism or Tribbing, is most often thought of as the territory of same-sex, female-identified couples.

It’s usually considered to be two partners rubbing their vulvas against each other’s, but can also be defined as one partner rubbing their vulva against other body parts of their partner’s (including the thighs and butt), as Autostraddle pointed out.

In so-called “classic” scissor position, partners’ legs intersect so that they look like — you guessed it — scissors. Porn (especially porn made for the male gaze) has probably hyped up scissoring as a more popular activity among women who have sex with women than it actually is in real life, but plenty of people love it.

Edge Play

When you first hear the term “edge play,” it’s easy to assume it refers to extreme sex acts that literally involve an edge of some sort, such as knives or needles (and yes, some people consensually incorporate those things into sex).

But no sharp objects need to be involved in this type of edge play. The term means kinky sexual acts that push your boundaries (consensually) to the edge, which can be exhilarating for some. What is considered edge play differs from person to person, as we all have our own boundaries and limits.

For some, psychological play such as name-calling may be edge play. If you are going to try pushing your boundaries, please do so with a partner you trust and use a safe word.


Figging is one of those sexual acts that are so interesting it’s fun to know what it means, but you have to wonder if anyone actually does it.

Figging is the act of inserting a piece of peeled ginger into someone’s butthole, which would burn, sting, and be quite painful.

Figging allegedly originated as a (non-sexual) form of corporal punishment on female prisoners by the Greek and the Roman empires. These days, the term also can refer to the general infliction of consensual pain on the anus.

We hope you found this Dictionary enlightening